What is coaching?

 

For a very long time psychology was focused around various types of disorders and deficits. Its practical side – psychotherapy – is dedicated to reduce human suffering, and to help those who were struck by some difficut circumstances and events. Obviously, it’s something very important. At the same time, ignoring the positive side of people was a big loss. Fortunately, over the recent years we’ve been witnessing a growing interst in what is beautiful, noble, and strong within people. Psychologists finally started to explore our creativity and the ability to adapt to different circumstances, the ability to overcome obstacles, and the prevailing desire to form deep and satisfying relationships with others. At last, the adaptive role of positive emotions, like joy or love, is examined and valued. Because of that, today we have at hand a lot of methods that are designed not to fix or heal people, but to help them discover what’s good and beautiful within them. One of the most important methods of this kind is coaching.

“Coaching is partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process
that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential”
International Coach Federation

What does it mean in practice? We sit down in a comfortable place, and we have a cup of good tea or coffee. You tell me about the goal you want to achieve, or about a problem you struggle with, and together we try to reach the best possible solutions. You can be sure that I will ask you some good and interesting questions (including those nobody asked you before), and all those questions are to serve you – help you close the gap between you and your goals. We also try different tools and models, we think hard, plan, draw, try out and test, dream, fool around, and often share a good laugh. During a coaching session I have a habit of making notes, because my clients like it when they can get the key ideas and conclusions on paper. At its best, coaching is a process – a series of sessions – but we can also meet for a single coaching session or two. It all depends on your individual needs – they are most important to me.

When you have an idea of what happens at a coaching session, it’s good to think about when it’s better to use coaching rather than something else – a different method of supporting human growth. Below you will find a list of exemplary situations when coaching is a very accurate choice. Remember that the list doesn’t include all of the motivations coaching clients have, so if your motivation is different, you can always call me or write to me, and I will let you know if coaching is the thing you need.

1. When you want to achieve an important goal

If there is a big challenge waiting in front of you, or you want to achieve an important professional or personal goal, it’s worth having a coach to support you in planning your actions, implementing them, and keeping your motivation at the optimum level along the way.

2. When you're tired of putting aside your dreams and hopes

Coaching is about taking full ownership over your life and your dreams. It’s designed for those who want to fulfill their dreams instead of saying “later, later” to what their hearts long for. If you don’t want to lose your precious time in life, coaching is the thing you should try!

3. When you go through a crisis of some kind

Coaching may also help you when you go through a crisis of some sort. It may help you avoid getting stuck in the middle of the crisis, and it may stimulate you to use the crisis as an opportunity for growth. It’s true that a crisis is often a chance for a real breakthrough, but it’s up to you if you use its potential.

4. When you want a change

Every coaching process is designed to partner you through a process of change – a change of the way you think, a change of your habits, a change of methods and strategies you use, etc. That’s why coaching is often used by people who intentionally want to implement some important changes in their life, for example they want to change their career or job, or they go through a change that’s to a certain degree independent of them, for example they are forced to change their position within an organization, or they graduate college and start a new chapter of their life. A coach will help you stay motivated and avoid going off track.

5. When you need more balance and harmony

Good time-management is a popular coaching theme. Together with a coach you can take a close look at the ways of dealing with tasks and managing your time, and change them in such a way that you have more time for your family and friends (work-life balance). You can always change your habits, work faster, spend less energy, and get more rest and quality time with those you care for most.

6. When you finally decide you want to be happy

Positive thinking is not a cheap ideology or blind and naive optimism. It’s about making a conscious decision that I don’t want to waste my life on complaining all the time. It’s about choosing hope and belief that by working hard you can achieve a lot. It’s about finding happiness in your everyday life. It’s about working on the way you think and behave. Step by step your life becomes more and more joyful and meaningful.

7. When you want to be better at...

…managing people or projects, running your own business and building your personal brand, managing time and tasks, being a parent or a partner… This list can go on and on, because each of us plays many different roles in his or her life. Coaching is about striving for mastery in the domain that is important to you.

8. When you need more self-confidence

Coaching is a great experience, because it’s focused around what is strong, beautiful, and good in the coachee. It’s about looking for the resources, and that’s why it supports client’s self-confidence and self-esteem. People who experienced coaching have more courage fulfilling their dreams, they are more relaxed while talking to big audiences, and they have more freedom regarding what others are going to think and say.

9. When you want better relationships with others

Coaching is a goal-oriented process, and very often clients choose goals concerning their relationships with other people, because it’s certainly true that quality relationships and a sense of belonging are some of the most important aspects of life. You can dedicate your coaching process to your relations with co-workers and superiors, or to your relations with friends and family. Whomever you choose, you can always improve your communication skills, mutual understanding, and the ability to think of yourself and other people in such a way that nourishes the bonds that are between you and them.

10. When you want to do what you love

Coaching session is a time to know yourself better and to answer yourself many key questions. What makes you happy? What are your strengths? What’s most important to you? What’s your mission, and what are your goals in life? Who are you, and who do you want to become? Honest answers to questions like these may save you a lot of energy wasted on playing roles you don’t want, pursuing a career that makes you miserable, or living a life that seems to belong to someone else.

If you have any questions or doubts, write to me!

Maciej Pasowicz | Coaching